What I have noticed in my years of practice, is that far too many couples wait too long before sitting down with a professional to care for their relationship. Many of us assume that we should be able to figure it out on our own (this is, of course, part of our pull-yourself-up-by-the-bootstraps culture). Yet the quality of our relationships is one of the most important predictors of a happy life. So the goal of this blog post is to dispel your fears about starting to prioritize your relationships by telling you exactly what you can expect when you sit down with one of the PACT therapists at Kindman & Co.

You can have hard conversations whenever you want because you can create the conditions for it to go well...In this blog, we aim to provide some insights around co-regulation and how to use different tools of awareness and embodiment cues to help you have a more effective conversation...in understanding attachment more, we can identify how we are in a relationship and how our partners are in a relationship. What we and they tend to do to cope is helpful when getting into activating conversations.

It's hard to ignore the thematic resonance between the conversations I’m having [in session,] and then see that many of you are passing through this very same waiting room week after week. And it’s not just my clients! The people who come to Kindman & Co. are a self-selecting bunch. You all care about growing and learning, you’re curious, you hold your values deeply. I swear some of you would be great neighbors, friends, confidants, maybe even great loves...What if you thought it was possible to meet someone in the therapy waiting room who could be an important person in your life? What might you do differently? Just something to muse on while you’re waiting.

Have you ever felt isolated while endlessly scrolling through social media? In a world where we're more "connected" than ever, genuine human connection often feels elusive. Yet, meaningful human connection is within your reach beyond the number of friends or followers. What truly matters is the quality of your conversations.

The capacity to have meaningful discussions will transform your social life, from meeting new people to deepening current relationships to just feeling more connected to the world around you. Now, let's explore how you can start with significant conversations.

Many therapy clients come to us never having been in therapy before. These new clients are usually excited to begin but also feel intimidated, uncertain, and unknowing of what to expect. Understandably, starting therapy can bring up a complex mixture of emotions! One question we frequently get from clients new to therapy is “What should I talk about in therapy?”

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives. In fact, humans need quality, connected relationships to be healthy and have prolonged lives…Communication is only one of many important relationship skills, not THE most important relationship skill. I want to outline a number of other vital, relationship skills that often get overlooked when we’re primarily thinking that the key to successful relationships is communication. Read on for seven additional relationship skills to help you improve the quality of your relationships.

Research shows that individuals with a secure attachment style tend to have greater emotional well-being and more intimacy and trust in their relationships. But what about those who have struggled with attachment trauma and insecure attachment in their past? This is where earned secure attachment comes into play. By understanding the context that has shaped your attachment style, you can work towards developing a secure foundation for your relationships moving forward.

Love, connection, friendship, romance, pleasure, and joy are worth so much more than a single holiday…There is room for love in every relationship, every action, and every day. Read on for an individual and couple therapist’s suggestions for 5 ways to honor love and romance this Valentine’s Day and learn about how these methods will support you.

In relationships, misalignment of communication styles, boundaries, and values leads to more disagreements, isolation, an uneven sharing of workload, feeling dismissed, and an overall lack of attunement to your partner(s.) Read on for essential questions from a Couple Therapist to ask your partner to help you navigate holiday celebrations and family visits while staying emotionally connected.