blog: Thoughts on Being Human
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On The Myth of the “Meat Suit”: How Intellectualizing Blocks Somatic Healing
You can understand exactly why you feel the way you do and still feel stuck. Explore how intellectualizing can distance us from our bodies—and how somatic therapy and embodiment offer another way into healing.
On Healing the Nervous System: Practical Strategies for Burnout, Anxiety, and Emotional Resilience
Burnout and anxiety can take a toll on both the mind and body. Learn how your nervous system responds to chronic stress and explore practical, evidence-informed ways to support regulation, resilience, and emotional well-being in everyday life.
On The Ultimatum Isn't Testing Love. It's Testing Nervous Systems.
What if The Ultimatum isn’t really testing relationships at all? A PACT couples therapist looks at the Netflix dating show through the lens of nervous system regulation, relationship safety, rupture and repair. And what happens when manufactured relationship stress crosses the line into real harm.
On What Happens When You Don’t Fully Trust the System You’re Relying On?
Trust is one of the strongest foundations of effective therapy, but it's not uncommon for doubts to arise over time. Learn how changes in trust can affect your progress, when it may be time to reevaluate your therapeutic relationship, and how to build a support system that helps you heal with confidence.
On the Podcast: Why a Kids' Movie About Sheep Made Us Cry (And What It Teaches Us About Loss)
In this episode, Anna and Paul talk through The Sheep Detectives — a film that tackles death, denial, and what it means to belong, wrapped in comedy and heart. They explore why avoiding grief always comes with a bill, and why remembering, even when it hurts, keeps us connected to each other.
On Grief in the In-Between: Parent Loss in Young Adulthood
Young adulthood is often a time of building a future—but when a parent dies, that foundation can shift overnight. This blog explores the unique challenges of grieving while stepping into adulthood, the isolation many young adults experience, and why you don't have to navigate this season alone.
On Beyond the Coffee Date: When Success Changes the Dating Pool
Can we really have it all in modern dating? As our opportunities and expectations expand, so do the tensions that come with choosing a partner. A reflection on tradeoffs, compatibility, and what truly matters in relationships.
On The Cost of Having It All: Why Every Meaningful Relationship Requires Tradeoffs
Modern dating often tells us we can have it all, but every meaningful choice comes with tradeoffs. In this essay, I explore why choosing a partner isn't about settling, but about deciding what matters most, accepting the opportunities we leave behind, and embracing the reality that love, like every worthwhile pursuit, asks something of us.
On Beyond the Coffee Date: What We Miss When We Stop Being Curious About Men
Many conversations about dating focus on what men should do differently. But what if we also got curious about what many men are experiencing? This article explores loneliness, vulnerability, shifting expectations, and why empathy may be one of the most overlooked ingredients in modern relationships.
On Compassion Fatigue: How to Handle Your Patients’ Fear, Disappointment, & Expectations
Compassion fatigue isn't a sign that you've stopped caring or are not doing a good job as a therapist. It's what happens when care is given continuously without enough space to recover. Learn how to recognize the warning signs, navigate the emotional challenges therapists face, and build sustainable practices that support both your clients and yourself.
On Self-Help’s Shortcomings: Why Self-Optimization Can't Heal What Hurts
Many self-help approaches encourage us to optimize, control, and overcome ourselves. This article questions the assumptions beneath those messages and explores how healing can emerge through embodied awareness, self-compassion, and connection with others. Sometimes the answer isn't another framework—it's making space for our full humanity.
On Reconnecting with an Old Friend: Living with Chronic Depression
Through the metaphor of an old friend who never seems to stay away for long, this reflection explores the realities of chronic depression, the courage it takes to face its return, and the healing power of letting others accompany us through the dark.