And other times, we put ourselves out there in ways we might not recognize, like just being our authentic, beautiful, imperfect selves in our small corners of the world. Do we sometimes suffer from a vulnerability hangover? Maybe (read: yes). Might we be perceived? Almost certainly. Do we risk rejection, tripping over our words, or struggling with something new? Inevitably, we do. Sometimes we go for it regardless, and what a wonderful thing it is when we do.

Toxic masculinity shows up in how we hold space for men and boys who are having a hard time. Every time we enforce toughness or silence from a struggling masculine person in our life, we are sending the message that we don’t want them to open up. Toxic masculinity is there in the discomfort you feel when our brothers cry, express their pain, and share their vulnerability. Read more on how to heal from toxic masculinity and allow space for vulnerability, nurturing, and community.

Mindfulness helps you create an observer version of yourself that allows you to create space to recognize you are not your thoughts and feelings. Instead, your thoughts and emotions are a result of past experiences that can be felt, accepted, and let go, without judgment.