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Read our blog posts to get to know us more in our own complexity;
our passions, our own big feelings, our values.
We’re excited to share our humanity with you!
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On Secure Attachment: A Way to Increase Trust & Security in Your Relationships
Research shows that individuals with a secure attachment style tend to have greater emotional well-being and more intimacy and trust in their relationships. But what about those who have struggled with attachment trauma and insecure attachment in their past? This is where earned secure attachment comes into play. By understanding the context that has shaped your attachment style, you can work towards developing a secure foundation for your relationships moving forward.
On Smut Over Self-Help
Your soul does not need habits. Your soul needs play and imagination and pleasure!
Enter in what I hope to persuade you into reading more of: smut. You may have heard of smut because it’s a growing category of popularity in the Bookstagram and #BookTok areas of the internet.
On Better Help Than BetterHelp
Sessions can be more affordable, but the level of savings is not proportional to the rate cut for providers. So when you pay for therapy, although you’re paying less, your money is going toward the company BetterHelp—its advertising, parent company investors, and overall profit, not toward paying your therapist. This will undoubtedly impact the therapeutic relationship, which is “at least as vital to a positive outcome as using the right treatment method” according to the American Psychological Association.
On Defining Toxic Masculinity & Building Modern Masculinity
I think that the pathway to creating loving men is through showing men the love, care, and open embrace of all parts of their humanity. It’s important to remember that nothing about masculinity is inherently toxic. Masculinity can be beautiful, generative, and nurturing when it isn’t strangled by sexist ideals.
On Reframing Easter
Easter can mean whatever you want it to mean. It can represent rebirth of yourself– who are you this year, in this season? Who do you want to be known as in the community that you are currently working on building? It can also represent stillness and an invitation to be outside, to be with others who feel and think like you.
On Being Latine & Being A Therapist
Gaby and Dani share more about what it’s like to be a Latine person working in mental health. Read more about how healing it can be to work as a therapist and also the really hard parts.
And like Gaby says, “The reality is that the Latine experience is SO broad, coupled with the many intersectionalities that we each hold. That being said, I will speak on my experience as a Latine person in the mental health field.”
On A Beginner’s Guide to Adding Sex Toys to Partnered Sex
Welcome beginners to sex toys!! This blog is meant to be a non-judgmental and cozy invitation for you to begin to explore sex toys with a partner. I’ll go over ways to introduce toys, some things that are not specifically toys that can be helpful, and then a few recommendations at the end to get started!
On Helping Those Who Are Grieving
Being with those who are grieving is one of the most powerless feelings…If you haven’t experienced loss yourself (or even if you have!), it can be hard to know how to support others who are grieving their own losses. Read on for tips on how to support a loved one who’s navigating loss.
On Job loss, Identity & Coping Strategies
Job loss can really mess with our sense of self. This blog will discuss why job loss is so impactful, how job loss connects back to identity, and approaches to help you re-engage with your emotional and relational self after losing a job. In our present American culture, our job is a standard place for measuring value and worth.