Los Angeles Couples Therapy: in-person & online
As humans, we are made to connect.
Intimacy with other people is sustaining and fulfilling. Our wiring encourages us to seek out relationships and develop meaningful connections, but it can also be incredibly challenging to do so! In fact close relationships are often cause for significant distress, pain, and hardship. We’ve got good news—We hurt in relationships, but we heal in them too.
As humans, we also struggle to connect.
Conflict is inevitable in all relationships but we’re rarely equipped to handle it well! Instead, it often leaves us feeling overwhelmed, fearful, ashamed, or alone. Thus, we believe that relationship counseling can benefit anyone.
At Kindman & Co., our experienced couples therapists in Los Angeles specialize in helping partners navigate challenges and strengthen their connections. Relationship therapy sessions with our team are beneficial for folks who want to deepen their intimacy, work through disagreements, heal from betrayal, feel confident managing conflict, & feel more secure within their partnership(s).
Are you & your partner(s) noticing it’s feeling hard to:
navigate cultural or value differences
stay curious when feeling challenged
avoid frequent conflicts or make agreements that actually work for everyone
be warm and forgiving when feeling hurt
collaborate well and feel confident in working together as a team
manage concerns and/or competing needs around money, sex, quality time, raising kids, and/or managing your household
be authentically yourself in your partnership
feel trusting and confident in your relationship?
l.a. Relationship counseling for couples, intimate partnerships, and support for consensual non-monogamy
our experienced couples therapists in Los Angeles specialize in helping partners:
develop better, more effective communication
learn to meet your own & your loved ones’ needs
feel less overwhelmed by conflict
navigate relationship challenges with confidence & care
heal past relationship hurts & attachment traumas
thoughtfully engage in non-traditional relationship structures & create agreements that work for everyone
clarify your values and vision for your partnership
find more satisfaction, enjoyment, play, and security in your relationships
If you’re ready to book a free info session to learn more about getting started with relationship therapy, click the button below! Or you can keep reading to learn more about who we work with, common relationship challenges we help with, and our highly-effective PACT approach to relationship & couples’ therapy.
we’re doing okay, do we really need couples counseling?
Many people think of therapy as something you do to “fix” a problem, and couples therapy can certainly address relationship struggles or new stressors. But relationship therapy can also be used preventively, like premarital counseling, as a way to build a healthy, nourishing relationship that can withstand tough times. In the “honeymoon” stage of relationships, romance is often easy and intimacy bonds feel strong. Just think about how much time and energy you devote to getting to know someone and building a new relationship! You learn all their favorite things, listen to their favorite band together, go on dates to explore new places. You feel excitement and expectation. When things become familiar, it’s natural to stop investing as much energy and time into your relationship.
Of course many partnerships experience significant crises like infidelity, grief or loss, financial strain, etc., but often many intimate relationships dissolve because people just stop working at them. Partners start accepting less than they want, and letting little things slide. They stop seeing and meeting each others’ needs. They stop getting to know each other and paying attention. They grow and change without inviting their partner along. Eventually, small missteps may turn into deep, irresolvable differences.
Couples’ therapy and marriage counseling work to keep relationships healthy and thriving, and gives partnerships strategies for addressing hurt and pain quickly and effectively. Therapy is a way to affirm and reaffirm your desire to maintain a healthy, fulfilling relationship, and to regain the joy and energy of being with your partner.
who is relationship & couples counseling for?
You have likely heard intimate relationship therapy referred to as couples counseling or marriage counseling, but we recognize that our romantic partnerships can be multifaceted and exist outside of the heteropatriarchal norm.
The Kindman & Co. team welcomes, and has experience working with, relational configurations of all kinds—including interracial and intercultural couples, consensual non-monogamy and polyamorous relationships, open partnerships, and partnerships with diverse gender expressions or sexualities. We also support families, creative collaborators, business partners, and other non-romantic relationships who want to strengthen communication, resolve conflict, or reconnect with purpose.
Your relationships are complex and evolving, and therapy can help you recognize and advocate for your relational needs within any kind of relationship structure.
We welcome anyone who wants to access more compassion in their relationships and develop more nourishing connections. Our clients book relationship counseling sessions for a variety of situations, including:
New relationships or Premarital Counseling—For partners or fiancées who want to feel more committed, confident, and aligned in their shared future. Premarital counseling in Los Angeles can help you strengthen communication, clarify expectations, and build a foundation for lasting intimacy.
Marriage counseling & Long-term partners—For couples wanting to continue growing together, resolve long-standing conflicts, and reignite connection. Our marriage counseling sessions help partners repair trust, rediscover affection, and feel more grounded and secure in their relationship.
Partners navigating intercultural or interracial relationship challenges—seeking interracial couple therapy in Los Angeles to bridge understanding, celebrate differences, and strengthen connection across cultures. Therapy can help you navigate family expectations, cultural communication styles, and external stressors while building a partnership rooted in respect and shared values.
Business partners, bandmates, and co-stars—Collaborators who have creative or communication differences and are struggling to work together effectively. Therapy can help business partners rebuild trust, understand interpersonal dynamics, and reestablish balance so collaboration feels sustainable again.
Partners navigating betrayal or infidelity—who want to repair or compassionately end their relationship.
Folks engaged in expansive relationship styles like polyamory, consensual non-monogamy (CNM), open relationships, and more—who want to create a safe, secure, nourishing, and equitable environment for all parties. Relationship therapy supports clear communication, boundary-setting, and emotional attunement across multiple partners.
New parents—who are needing support in redefining their partnership in the context of their growing family.
Partners navigating significant life transitions or crises like relocation, retirement, or the loss of a loved one and seeking to better support one another and reestablish feelings of security.
Families, blended families, and families-of-choice—who are working to create more stability and deepen intimacy bonds. We also support non-romantic relationships such as friendships or co-parenting partnerships, where people want to strengthen trust, repair connection, or communicate with more clarity and care.
take our PACT: our science-backed approach to relationship counseling
PACT stands for Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®. PACT is an approach to relationship therapy that focuses on helping couples and partners prepare for a robust, lasting relationship, navigate tough times, and preserve partnerships on the brink of dissolution. Why does it work? PACT combines thoughtful and realistic consideration of three areas of human experience that directly impact relationships:
neuroscience (how the brain works),
attachment theory (our blueprint for how we connect and love),
and the biology of arousal (the ability to manage social engagement, feel energized and alert, and the way we react when feeling safe/unsafe).
During PACT relationship therapy sessions, partners are asked to pay close attention to the moment-to-moment changes in each other’s bodies, faces, and voices. We will recreate stressful or painful situations that have occurred outside of therapy, so that we can work through them together in real time and send you off with improved understanding and capacity to care for one another.
Read more about what PACT is and how PACT can help your partnership. You can also watch the video below to learn about what happens in your first session!
Paul Kindman, LMFT, discusses what to expect from your first PACT relationship therapy session and how PACT helps you become an expert on your partner.
what is co-therapy for relationships?
Paul and Kaitlin Kindman are business partners, therapists, pet parents, and they also happen to be husband and wife. Can you imagine a satisfying relationship that involves living and working with the same person every day?! Kaitlin and Paul know a thing or two about the importance of maintaining secure intimacy bonds, and that’s why they decided to offer co-therapy for intimate relationships. When you and your partner choose co-therapy, both Kindmans will meet with you during counseling sessions. Paul and Kaitlin believe in the innate value of modeling transparency and vulnerability for their clients, and co-therapy is one of the ways that they do this. In addition to receiving insights about how the Kindmans work to maintain their own relationship, they offer multiple perspectives and experiences to help create a more balanced, equitable therapy environment where you can feel safe discussing your own relationship challenges.
Click the button below to learn more about how co-therapy for couples counseling can offer you a highly supportive & uniquely effective support for your relationship!
Relationship Therapy FAQs
What is relationship therapy?
Relationship therapy (sometimes called couples or partnership therapy) is a supportive process where you and your partner meet with a professional therapist to learn to repair conflicts quickly, improve communication, strengthen your connection, and feel more security in your relationship. At Kindman & Co., we use the PACT method — a science-based approach that focuses on attachment, neuroscience, and body awareness.
Who is relationship & couples counseling for?
We specialize in supporting interracial and intercultural couples, queer partnerships, and non-traditional relationship structures like consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and polyamorous partnerships, but our doors are open to all kinds of relationships. We also work with married and long-term partners, dating or premarital couples, and even business partners—anyone wanting to communicate better, repair trust, or reconnect emotionally. Whether your relationship is “traditional”, queer, intercultural, or something in between, we help you build mutual understanding, deepen empathy, and grow stronger as a team across differences.
Do we need to attend together?
Our couple/relationship therapy sessions are designed for all partners to attend together, ideally in our office or if virtually, where you’re physically located in the same place. We know that in some instances participants may be in different places and we can generally work with this as long as all members are located within California and your therapist believes this will work to support you to meet your goals.
How long are sessions?
Sessions are typically 60, 90, or 120 minutes depending on the therapist’s experience level and availability, so you have the space to work deeply without feeling rushed. Our goal is for you to have new and different experiences in your relationship therapy sessions that you can take outside our sessions to better support you—having slightly longer sessions greatly helps with this.
How many sessions will we need?
Every relationship is unique. While many partners notice positive changes after just a few sessions, we typically recommend planning for at least six months of therapy to create lasting change. Many couples choose to continue longer term as an ongoing way to strengthen and maintain their relationship. Your therapist will work with you to create a plan that fits your needs and goals.
Is relationship therapy only for partners in crisis?
Not at all. Many partners come in proactively—to deepen their bond, navigate transitions (like loss, parenthood, or moving), and learn tools to prevent small issues from becoming bigger ones.
What if we’re not married?
That’s absolutely fine! We work with partners at every stage of commitment — dating, engaged, married, or long-term companions. We offer pre-marital counseling to help you deepen your relationship with confidence and also support non-romantic relationships, such as business partners, creative collaborators, co-stars, and family members. Effective communication and connection matter in all kinds of relationships.
How much does relationship therapy cost?
Our session rates are listed on the Fees & Insurance page and vary depending on therapist experience level and session length. We’ll review fees and scheduling with you before your first appointment.
How do we get started?
The best first step is to book a free info session. This gives you a chance to speak with our Care Coordinator—to be paired with your best fit therapist, ask questions, learn more about our practice and approach, and decide together if Kindman & Co. is right fit for you.